How often do people ask you things like, “So, when are you getting married?” or “Why are you still single?” Or maybe they comment, “You’re going to need to get married soon because having kids only gets harder as you get older.” Do these remarks sound familiar? They probably do if you’re a single woman in your mid-twenties through your thirties and forties. However, society’s fixation on this topic, though sometimes well-intentioned, isn’t rooted in God’s Word or His perfect plan for you.
Society often ties a woman’s worth to her relationship status, regardless of how much she accomplishes. This kind of pressure makes it challenging, even for the strongest women, to wait on God for their future spouse. It’s natural to feel discouraged at times, but there’s a greater plan unfolding.
Waiting as a Christian woman isn’t easy, but God created marriage, and as the Creator, He fully understands the desires of your heart. He knows the importance of this relationship and the significance of timing. Trusting Him means believing that His plan includes a man of God who aligns with His design for your life. Instead of stressing about marriage, shift your focus to knowing God and understanding His purpose for marriage. When you seek Him first, He will shape your heart for what lies ahead. For more faith-based encouragement and insights, check out my YouTube channel.
Here are three key benefits of waiting on God for your husband:
Benefit 1: Deepening Trust in God’s Timing
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”
– Isaiah 55:8-9 (NIV)
The greatest gift in your life is God’s presence. Through faith, God promises that you will lack nothing (Psalm 23:1). These truths are the foundation for trusting His timing. As you wait for your future husband, you have the opportunity to grow in faith and better understand His promises. This wisdom transforms waiting from frustration into anticipation, as you faithfully watch how God will move in your life.
When you truly understand how deeply God loves you, trusting His timing becomes easier. You begin to desire His plan, knowing it’s better than anything you could imagine.
James 1:2-3 reminds us to “consider it pure joy” when we face trials because the testing of faith produces perseverance. Though waiting isn’t easy, it strengthens your faith and builds spiritual endurance. Perseverance is vital because God knows the path ahead and is preparing you for what’s ahead.
God’s ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). While you may not understand what He’s working on, you can trust His plan. God works for your good; your role is to trust Him and remain steadfast.
The Challenge of Trusting God’s Timing
Trusting in God’s timing isn’t about following an arbitrary or punitive timeline. It’s about recognizing that His divine timing is intricately tied to who He created you to be.
Here’s the challenge: many people struggle to trust in God’s timing because they don’t truly know Him. It’s hard to trust someone you don’t have a relationship with, and the same is true for God. To trust in God’s will for your life, you must first know who God is. Learning to surrender to God’s plan is crucial in building trust. Read more about how surrender leads to peace here. When you know Him as your Creator, Savior, and Provider, it becomes easier to recognize His faithfulness and trust that He has your best interest at heart instead of taking things into your own hands.
Knowing God Helps You Trust His Timing
1. God as Our Creator
Psalm 139:13 reminds us:
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.”
God’s knowledge of you goes beyond surface-level understanding. He created every intricate part of you and has always known your purpose, your potential, and your needs. Knowing Him as your Creator helps you rest in the truth that He knows you better than you know yourself.
2. God as Our Savior
After sin entered the world, humanity was on a path toward destruction. But God’s grace and mercy provided an alternative. John 3:16 says:
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
Knowing God as your Savior reminds you that He has already sacrificed everything for you. He saved you, demonstrating the depth of His love and commitment to your well-being. Nothing—not even your own impatient thoughts—can derail His plans for you, as long as you keep your focus on Him.
3. God as Our Provider
God’s provision extends beyond salvation to the blessings He gives us here on earth. Psalm 34:9 says:
“Fear the Lord, you his holy people, for those who fear him lack nothing.”
This doesn’t mean you’ll always receive what you want when you want it, but it does mean your Heavenly Father provides what you need when you need it. Trusting in His provision brings peace in knowing He will never withhold a good thing from you.
By deepening your relationship with God through prayer, reading your Bible, and seeking Him daily, you can better understand His character and His plans for your love life. God desires to bless you with the best thing—a life anchored in Him and filled with true love that reflects His design for you. Instead of worrying about missed opportunities or comparing yourself to others, rest in the assurance that His plans are far greater than what you could create on your own.
Benefit 2: Embracing Your Season of Singleness
Too often, singles spend their season of singleness focused on waiting for life to align with their plans, rather than embracing God’s unique purpose for them at every stage. Your waiting season is not a punishment or a waiting room for life to begin—it’s a precious opportunity to live fully in God’s purpose and grow into the person He created you to be. God has good reasons for why you are the one to have your personal experiences.
This is the time to pursue your own dreams, step out of your comfort zone, and develop the specific qualities that will serve you in your personal life and, in the long run, as you build your Christian home. Becoming a godly woman during this season prepares you to be a future wife, a blessing to your church family, and a good influence on future generations.
This season will allow you to:
1. Live Out God’s Purpose
“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.”
– James 1:27 (NIV)
As Christians, we have a responsibility that goes beyond personal satisfaction. God has called us to be servants and missionaries, living out His purpose through love, care, and action. In your waiting season, you have the unique opportunity to focus on these callings without the added responsibilities that often come with marriage and family life. Once you’re married, your priorities will shift, and the time you have now to grow spiritually and serve God may be more limited.
Use these single years to deepen your faith, develop your own relationship with God, and fully dedicate yourself to His Kingdom. This is your chance to embrace your ability to live for His purpose without distractions and to prepare for the next chapter of your life in the right way.
2. Discover Your Interests Through Hobbies
“So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”
– Genesis 1:27 (NIV)
Dissatisfaction often overshadows the greatness of God’s creation, but it doesn’t have to. God, in His infinite creativity, designed everything from the heavens to the earth. Take a moment to admire the stars, marvel at what NASA is discovering, or enjoy the beauty of music, artistry, food, and travel. These great things remind us of God’s handiwork and His intricate design. Because we are made in God’s image, we too are creators. Use this time to explore hobbies, talents, and passions that reflect His creativity. This not only fosters spiritual growth but also helps you discover the plenty of things God has uniquely gifted you to enjoy and share with others.
3. Spend Time with God
“Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.”
– James 4:8 (NIV)
At the heart of this waiting period is your relationship with God. While marriage is a beautiful gift, it should never take precedence over the Giver of that gift. Use this time to grow closer to Him through prayer, studying His Word, and seeking the guidance of the Holy Spirit. This strong relationship with God will not only sustain you now but also prepare you for the future.
Benefit 3: Preparing for a Godly Marriage
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
– Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV)
Preparing for a godly marriage is an exciting journey, but what’s even more fulfilling is recognizing that it is part of God’s provision and His plan for your continued love and care. As Ephesians 5:25-28 reminds us, husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church—sacrificially and unconditionally. Christ’s love for the church was so profound that He gave His life to save it, and that is the love God wants your future husband to have for you.
Marriage is not just a gift for companionship or fulfilling personal desires; it’s a great way to glorify God and reflect Christ’s relationship with the church. This covenant is meant to create an intimate relationship that mirrors God’s love and builds future generations for His Kingdom. When you and your life partner come together, your union will not only bless one another but also serve others and bring glory to God.
God’s Intent for Marriage
To prepare for a godly marriage, align your heart with God’s purpose by understanding His intent for marriage and the roles He has set for husbands and wives. Genesis 1:28 calls us to “be fruitful and increase in number,” highlighting that marriage is about more than romance; it’s about building a family and leaving a legacy that honors Him. A wife is called to be a helper and partner (Genesis 2:18), supporting her husband as they serve God together. Meanwhile, a godly husband is to lead with love, provide, protect, and sacrifice for his family, reflecting Christ in all he does.
By embracing this season of waiting, you can grow spiritually, develop the specific qualities needed for a strong relationship, and prepare to be the future wife God has called you to be. Trust that in His perfect time, He will unite you with the man He has prepared—a best friend and man of your dreams—to walk alongside you in faith and love.
Conclusion: Peace in God’s Perfect Plan
I know that waiting for the right person is not easy. But when you already have a love story as beautiful as the one between you and God, you can’t risk jeopardizing that for the wrong person. God’s plan isn’t just for your romantic relationships but for your entire life. You need a man of God who understands you as a child of God, a female child of God, and sees his responsibilities not as a burden but as an honor to serve Christ Jesus through his marriage. While this may not seem common among Christian men and Christian women these days, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. It simply requires patience and trust in your Lord God.
Trust God with your emotional needs during this season of waiting, especially when the journey feels challenging. Pray to Him for the best ways to overcome discontentment and to help you stay steadfast in faith. Remember, God calls us to keep His Word on our lips and hearts daily because without it, we are weak and prone to falling short. A lot of times, it’s our disconnect from Him that makes this waiting period harder than it needs to be. So lean into Him. Pray, read your Bible, and worship. These are the keys to growing closer to God and finding peace in His plan.
I pray that the man of your dreams finds you soon, and that when he does, you are both ready to walk together in a strong relationship that glorifies God and reflects His love.
Love,
Dorothy